What If Your Dog Isn’t Misbehaving, But Just Miserable?
Ritika | Jul 08, 2025, 09:15 IST
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Highlight of the story: You fell for the cuteness, brought home your dream dog… and now your slippers are shredded, your curtains are targets, and your neighbor won’t stop complaining. Exotic dog breeds may look like luxury, but raising them in a typical Indian apartment? That’s a behavior rollercoaster waiting to happen. Here’s how to go from chaos to calm, without losing your mind (or your dog's trust).
They’re charming, photogenic, and trending on every influencer’s feed, but when exotic dog breeds meet the compact chaos of urban Indian living, instinct meets overwhelm. Increasingly, pet parents across cities like Mumbai, Delhi, and Hyderabad are discovering that raising high-energy, imported breeds like Huskies, French Bulldogs, and Shih Tzus requires more than just a cute nameplate and daily walks; it demands a full-on behavior strategy before your dream pet turns into a full-blown apartment crisis. This guide unpacks real behavioral red flags and gives you actionable fixes built for apartment life and Indian homes.
Every breed comes hardwired with specific instincts and no matter where they live, their instincts will always come through. So, understanding what drives your pet is the first step that helps prevent misbehavior:
Huskies: Bred to run in subzero packs, they need rigorous mental and physical activity.Dachshunds: Natural diggers and scent hunters; expect couch burrowing.Shih Tzus: Lap dogs, yes—but ones that crave structure and routine.Golden Retrievers: Friendly but excitable, they demand consistent cues and feedback.Tip: Research original breed purposes. A bored Husky in an apartment isn't a pet, it's a furry tornado waiting to happen. Don't expect a sled dog to vibe like a couch potato.
Pet Parent Story: “We brought home a Husky thinking it’d be cool in Delhi winters. Two months later, our couch looked like snow. Turns out, boredom was the real enemy.” – Aarav B., South Delhi
2. Learn to Read Dog Speak
Just because your dog can’t talk doesn’t mean they’re not trying to communicate. Dogs speak volumes through their body language, most pet parents just don’t know how to listen. The truth? Misbehavior rarely comes out of nowhere. Your dog is always dropping signals long before destruction strikes. Learn to decode these cues. Watch for:
Lip-licking, yawning (even when not tired)Constant pacingTail-tucked body postureUnexplained barking or whiningThese cues often mean frustration, stress, or overstimulation.
Understanding these behaviors helps prevent reactive training. you can also keep a behavior journal to record your dog’s mood, energy, and what worked or didn’t. Patterns can emerge, and prevention becomes easier than correction.
Real Tip: “My Frenchie used to bark at every knock. We started ‘watch and relax’ training by pairing door sounds with a treat—he stopped reacting within a week.” – Tanya M., Pune
If your dog doesn't get to roam around freely, it still needs something to keep its brain busy, because boredom leads straight to destruction. And unless you enjoy walking into a war zone after a long day at work, trust me, your dog needs a better outlet. So, use your limited space creatively:
Agility in the living room: Use cushions, stools, and tunnels for indoor obstacle play.Enrichment stations: Rotate chew toys, puzzle feeders, and treat games every 2–3 days.Window time: Let them watch the world, visual stimulation counts.Quick Home Enrichment Checklist
Chew toys Puzzle feeders Open window perch DIY tunnel setupAlso Read: Train Your Puppy Fast With This 7 Day Crate Plan
2. Use Calming Routines Before Stress Peaks
Dogs get overstimulated just like toddlers. Having “cool-down” protocols helps reduce meltdowns. Here are simple calming cues that teach your dog when it's time to rest, not react:
Use interactive feeders that take time to solveOffer sniff walks before guest arrivalsDim lights and use low voices to transition into restBedtime Rituals: “We say ‘night-night’, close curtains, offer a long-lasting chew, and use a lavender diffuser. My hyper Indie pup now sleeps before we do.” – Anushka, Mumba
3. Don’t Skip Downtime
Rest is training too. Hyper doesn't mean happy, without proper rest, your dog's stress hormone spike and behavior spirals. So, if you don't want your buddy to be moody, make sure they get their beauty sleep too.
Offer 2–3 rest windows in their dayCreate a quiet corner with soft lighting, low noise, and consistent beddingAvoid scheduling play right after feeding because digestion takes energy tooBonus Tip: Never wake a sleeping dog for play. Interrupted naps increase aggression and anxiety in certain breeds.
If you don’t want your dog panicking in public or turning into a leash-yanking mess at the sight of strangers, you’ve got to train beyond your living room. Quiet spaces won’t prepare them for a noisy world. Dogs need real-life exposure to handle real-life chaos:
Practice “sit” at a busy intersectionPlay recall games in building lobbiesUse elevators as patience drills, ask for a “stay” until doors openSlow exposure to noise and motion helps your dog build confidence and carry their training into everyday situations, not just silent, stress-free rooms.
2. Teach the "Disobey" Skill
Impulse control is one of the most powerful things you can teach your dog and one of the most ignored. Instead of always saying “yes,” train them to wait. Self-control helps them become calmer:
Hold up a treat and wait until your dog makes eye contact before releasingUse verbal cues like “wait,” then reward delay behaviorTrain during mealtime, play, or walk preparation, moments of high excitementMastering pause cues helps prevent leash pulling, food snatching, and over-the-top reactions to guests.
Related: Master These 10 Dog Commands to Raise a Super Pup
Correct the Behavior, Not the Dog
Punishment creates fear not understanding. Shouting or hitting doesn’t correct bad behavior, it confuses your dog and breaks trust. Instead, redirect that energy toward something acceptable:
Catch the act earlyOffer better behavior options (e.g., replace slipper with a frozen chew toy)Reward the switch immediately with praise or a high value treatDogs mirror your energy like children do, so guide them with calm, clear cues, not frustration. Correction should feel like coaching, not conflict.
2. When to Call in a Pro
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, things slip through the cracks. If your dog’s behavior starts spiraling like biting, obsessive barking, and destruction then it’s time to pause and call in a professional.
Look for certified dog behaviorists (IAABC, CCPDT credentials)Avoid aversive trainers using shock collars or alpha rollsInsist on positive reinforcement-based approachesGood trainers don’t just train the dog; they coach you too. Because this isn’t about control, it’s about communication.
Socialize with Intention
Dogs don’t automatically know how to “play nice.” Like kids, they need safe, guided interactions to understand social cues without fear or overwhelm.
Invite trusted friends with calm dogs overSet playdate rules: short sessions, positive body language, supervised interactionsEnd sessions before energy tips into roughnessMicro Tip: “We used a dog-safe playpen as our neutral ground. It helped my anxious beagle feel in control.” – Nidhi, Gurgaon
Skip dog parks in the early days. Controlled, predictable exposure prevents trauma and builds confidence.
2. Creating a Routine That Works
No two dogs are built the same. Some are go-go-go, some just want to nap and cuddle. That’s why routines should be built around your dog’s energy and not a one-size-fits-all approach.
Morning: Walk, 15 mins play, breakfastMidday: Nap, treat puzzle, calm interactionEvening: Active play, dinner, basic cue reviewNight: Wind-down ritual, soft crate or sleep matDogs thrive on predictability. When your dog knows what’s coming, they relax, listen better, and stop acting out just to cope.
Sharmila Nair, a Bengaluru-based trainer, says, “You can't bring a working-line German Shepherd into a two-bedroom flat and expect calm unless you’re simulating ‘work’ at home.”
Pet clubs, online workshops, and even Instagram reels now focus on human habit shifts. Start with simple steps like:
Learn to reward calm behavior, and not just tricksUse voice modulation and body languagePlan routines based on the dog’s energy curve (morning bursts, evening calm)Raising exotic dog breeds in India’s tight urban homes comes with more than aesthetic appeal. It’s a daily commitment to decoding behavior, setting up meaningful play, and understanding what your dog truly needs beyond food and shelter.
With just a few intentional tweaks, mindful observation, and consistent reinforcement, your apartment can shift from a chaos zone to a calm, shared space of trust, joy, and connection.
Because most of the time, it’s not the dog that’s resisting training, it’s the setup that’s missing the signals. The good news? That’s entirely in your control. And the leash? It’s always been in your hands.
Discover expert advice and the latest tips on pet care, training, health, and more. Stay updated with all things pets at TimesPets!
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How can I tell if my dog’s “misbehavior” is actually a cry for help due to emotional distress?
Look for changes in appetite, withdrawal, or excessive licking, which often signal underlying unhappiness rather than disobedience.Can changes in my dog’s environment improve their mood and reduce what seems like misbehavior?
Yes, enriching their space with toys, regular exercise, and social interaction can significantly boost their emotional well-being.How do I distinguish between a dog being stubborn and a dog expressing discomfort or sadness?
Observing body language and consistency in behavior during different situations can help reveal if your dog is resisting or signaling distress.
Understand the Breed Before the Behaviour
Golden Retriever making a
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Every breed comes hardwired with specific instincts and no matter where they live, their instincts will always come through. So, understanding what drives your pet is the first step that helps prevent misbehavior:
Huskies: Bred to run in subzero packs, they need rigorous mental and physical activity.Dachshunds: Natural diggers and scent hunters; expect couch burrowing.Shih Tzus: Lap dogs, yes—but ones that crave structure and routine.Golden Retrievers: Friendly but excitable, they demand consistent cues and feedback.Tip: Research original breed purposes. A bored Husky in an apartment isn't a pet, it's a furry tornado waiting to happen. Don't expect a sled dog to vibe like a couch potato.
Pet Parent Story: “We brought home a Husky thinking it’d be cool in Delhi winters. Two months later, our couch looked like snow. Turns out, boredom was the real enemy.” – Aarav B., South Delhi
2. Learn to Read Dog Speak
Just because your dog can’t talk doesn’t mean they’re not trying to communicate. Dogs speak volumes through their body language, most pet parents just don’t know how to listen. The truth? Misbehavior rarely comes out of nowhere. Your dog is always dropping signals long before destruction strikes. Learn to decode these cues. Watch for:
Lip-licking, yawning (even when not tired)Constant pacingTail-tucked body postureUnexplained barking or whiningThese cues often mean frustration, stress, or overstimulation.
Understanding these behaviors helps prevent reactive training. you can also keep a behavior journal to record your dog’s mood, energy, and what worked or didn’t. Patterns can emerge, and prevention becomes easier than correction.
Real Tip: “My Frenchie used to bark at every knock. We started ‘watch and relax’ training by pairing door sounds with a treat—he stopped reacting within a week.” – Tanya M., Pune
Create a Mind Stimulating Home
Dog playing with ball
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If your dog doesn't get to roam around freely, it still needs something to keep its brain busy, because boredom leads straight to destruction. And unless you enjoy walking into a war zone after a long day at work, trust me, your dog needs a better outlet. So, use your limited space creatively:
Agility in the living room: Use cushions, stools, and tunnels for indoor obstacle play.Enrichment stations: Rotate chew toys, puzzle feeders, and treat games every 2–3 days.Window time: Let them watch the world, visual stimulation counts.Quick Home Enrichment Checklist
Chew toys Puzzle feeders Open window perch DIY tunnel setupAlso Read: Train Your Puppy Fast With This 7 Day Crate Plan
2. Use Calming Routines Before Stress Peaks
Dogs get overstimulated just like toddlers. Having “cool-down” protocols helps reduce meltdowns. Here are simple calming cues that teach your dog when it's time to rest, not react:
Use interactive feeders that take time to solveOffer sniff walks before guest arrivalsDim lights and use low voices to transition into restBedtime Rituals: “We say ‘night-night’, close curtains, offer a long-lasting chew, and use a lavender diffuser. My hyper Indie pup now sleeps before we do.” – Anushka, Mumba
3. Don’t Skip Downtime
Rest is training too. Hyper doesn't mean happy, without proper rest, your dog's stress hormone spike and behavior spirals. So, if you don't want your buddy to be moody, make sure they get their beauty sleep too.
Offer 2–3 rest windows in their dayCreate a quiet corner with soft lighting, low noise, and consistent beddingAvoid scheduling play right after feeding because digestion takes energy tooBonus Tip: Never wake a sleeping dog for play. Interrupted naps increase aggression and anxiety in certain breeds.
Train with Urban Realities in Mind
Dog crossing the street
( Image credit : Freepik )
If you don’t want your dog panicking in public or turning into a leash-yanking mess at the sight of strangers, you’ve got to train beyond your living room. Quiet spaces won’t prepare them for a noisy world. Dogs need real-life exposure to handle real-life chaos:
Practice “sit” at a busy intersectionPlay recall games in building lobbiesUse elevators as patience drills, ask for a “stay” until doors openSlow exposure to noise and motion helps your dog build confidence and carry their training into everyday situations, not just silent, stress-free rooms.
2. Teach the "Disobey" Skill
Impulse control is one of the most powerful things you can teach your dog and one of the most ignored. Instead of always saying “yes,” train them to wait. Self-control helps them become calmer:
Hold up a treat and wait until your dog makes eye contact before releasingUse verbal cues like “wait,” then reward delay behaviorTrain during mealtime, play, or walk preparation, moments of high excitementMastering pause cues helps prevent leash pulling, food snatching, and over-the-top reactions to guests.
Related: Master These 10 Dog Commands to Raise a Super Pup
Correct the Behavior, Not the Dog
Woman reacts to dog's mes
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Punishment creates fear not understanding. Shouting or hitting doesn’t correct bad behavior, it confuses your dog and breaks trust. Instead, redirect that energy toward something acceptable:
Catch the act earlyOffer better behavior options (e.g., replace slipper with a frozen chew toy)Reward the switch immediately with praise or a high value treatDogs mirror your energy like children do, so guide them with calm, clear cues, not frustration. Correction should feel like coaching, not conflict.
2. When to Call in a Pro
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, things slip through the cracks. If your dog’s behavior starts spiraling like biting, obsessive barking, and destruction then it’s time to pause and call in a professional.
Look for certified dog behaviorists (IAABC, CCPDT credentials)Avoid aversive trainers using shock collars or alpha rollsInsist on positive reinforcement-based approachesGood trainers don’t just train the dog; they coach you too. Because this isn’t about control, it’s about communication.
Socialize with Intention
Man bonding with pet dog
( Image credit : Freepik )
Dogs don’t automatically know how to “play nice.” Like kids, they need safe, guided interactions to understand social cues without fear or overwhelm.
Invite trusted friends with calm dogs overSet playdate rules: short sessions, positive body language, supervised interactionsEnd sessions before energy tips into roughnessMicro Tip: “We used a dog-safe playpen as our neutral ground. It helped my anxious beagle feel in control.” – Nidhi, Gurgaon
Skip dog parks in the early days. Controlled, predictable exposure prevents trauma and builds confidence.
2. Creating a Routine That Works
No two dogs are built the same. Some are go-go-go, some just want to nap and cuddle. That’s why routines should be built around your dog’s energy and not a one-size-fits-all approach.
Morning: Walk, 15 mins play, breakfastMidday: Nap, treat puzzle, calm interactionEvening: Active play, dinner, basic cue reviewNight: Wind-down ritual, soft crate or sleep matDogs thrive on predictability. When your dog knows what’s coming, they relax, listen better, and stop acting out just to cope.
Educate the Pet Parent Too
An active and educated pe
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Sharmila Nair, a Bengaluru-based trainer, says, “You can't bring a working-line German Shepherd into a two-bedroom flat and expect calm unless you’re simulating ‘work’ at home.”
Pet clubs, online workshops, and even Instagram reels now focus on human habit shifts. Start with simple steps like:
Learn to reward calm behavior, and not just tricksUse voice modulation and body languagePlan routines based on the dog’s energy curve (morning bursts, evening calm)
From Chaos to Calm: A Behavior Shift That Starts with You
With just a few intentional tweaks, mindful observation, and consistent reinforcement, your apartment can shift from a chaos zone to a calm, shared space of trust, joy, and connection.
Because most of the time, it’s not the dog that’s resisting training, it’s the setup that’s missing the signals. The good news? That’s entirely in your control. And the leash? It’s always been in your hands.
Discover expert advice and the latest tips on pet care, training, health, and more. Stay updated with all things pets at TimesPets!
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How can I tell if my dog’s “misbehavior” is actually a cry for help due to emotional distress?
Look for changes in appetite, withdrawal, or excessive licking, which often signal underlying unhappiness rather than disobedience.Can changes in my dog’s environment improve their mood and reduce what seems like misbehavior?
Yes, enriching their space with toys, regular exercise, and social interaction can significantly boost their emotional well-being.How do I distinguish between a dog being stubborn and a dog expressing discomfort or sadness?
Observing body language and consistency in behavior during different situations can help reveal if your dog is resisting or signaling distress.